Happiness and sadness are not two entities. In fact, they go hand in hand. I believe that no one can feel happy if they don’t have those down moments in life.
Throughout the course I have not been penning (typing, because we have advanced to modern age) down my thoughts, I have been thinking. And I realize that happiness isn’t that day when everything is going ever so smoothly and you cruise through the entire day without conflict with others, without conflict with self or without experiencing an unfortunate event. (Of course those rare days when we breeze through the entire day are nice to have)
Rather, happiness is a little balance beam of our mindsets, where we balance the positive and negative outlooks we have in life. I personally feel that I am slightly neurotic, and tend to place many more marbles on the negativity end of the beam, but I am learning. I admit that it is definitely is easier said than done, though. It’s easy to say when I have much fewer stressors in my life currently, thus circumstances are looking brighter for me.
Even though life has its blemishes, I still thank God because I am eternally grateful for Him giving me good health, seeing me through this academic year though I have been such an emotional wreck, an imperfect yet lovely family to cherish, a highly stressful yet great education system to be in, few yet very close and reliable friends, high stressful yet great opportunities, the list just goes on.
I have so many things to be thankful for. Yes, I may not go to Havard in the end. I may not draw an income of 10,000 bucks a month. I may not have a shapely body, a doll-like face. I may not have the greatest family. I may not have the best grades.
But I have a good education, I am leading a comfortable life and will continue to do so, because I know God will never forsake me. I know I have inner beauty even though I may not look exactly aesthetically appealing. I know I am loved and I know that the best gift my mom could have ever given me is my sister. I know I have okay grades and I know I have God to see me through each academic year even though my self esteem is hiding under the rocks. I know I have talents, though they may not be the most prominent. I can speak, I have empathy, I am determined, I can write (just a little). I think these are strengths that ought to be celebrated.
Hence, I have decided that happiness is determined by:
1) Balancing the little balance beam in our minds by striking a balance between the positive and negative outlook in life (I don’t believe in absolute positivity or absolute negativity because it would be easy to swing into a bipolar scale)
2) Being grateful and giving thanks.
3) Remember that even if you don’t have it all, know that you have enough. (inspired by C!!)
4) Remembering that if everything in life feels like it is crumbling apart, know that “this too shall pass”.
Okay that’s all and I am feeling inspired to go to church this Sunday very much.
And a little challenge for me this week is to be a little kinder than I feel, because some people have been getting on my nerves recently, and I think that I need to show them kindness in order to have peace myself, and so I shall! :-)